If you are trying to be a hero, you’re missing the point of being a leader. Think of yourself as not a hero but a developer. Someone who helps someone else takes steps, ultimately leading them to a destination, but not being the destination.
Point others to Christ and to a place of personal growth led by the Spirit. Not to follow you.
It may seem to be a shift but it’s the difference between someone whose efforts make the long haul and someone whose work vanishes after they are gone.
How can you do this practically?
Ask more questions
Think about the people you know that ask the most questions. Not the pointed, make you reel questions but genuine curiosity. Do you think of them as heroes? Yet, I be you want to be more like them. If you want your leadership to last, spend more time asking questions than trying to give answers.
Instead of giving your volunteers answers, ask them questions to help them think critically. It means all the difference in the world.
I had a youth pastor who could debate both sides of a doctrinal issue. We often didn’t know where he stood. But he caused us to think critically and it drove me deeper and deeper into the Bible to search for the answers.
Take some time off
It’s worth it. Take a breath. Make sure your priorities are in check. This is one of the best ways to watch people rise to the occasion. It’s why we are instituting a program in March in our Family Ministry called the Hit by a Bus. I’ll call someone either late Saturday night or early Sunday morning and let them know they’ve been Hit by a Bus. They’ll get a paid day off and we’ll evaluate their area.
We haven’t even started this yet and there are already some incredible things happening as a result and I’ll share those in later posts.
Quit trying to know everything and be good at everything
You rob the body of being the body when you try to do it all. You’ll also run yourself right off the tracks of leadership and into chaos. If you’re at this place go back to the first two.
Who has a gift that doesn’t have an opportunity to use it because you are doing it?
Let other people fix the problems
Yes they may not be able to do it as fast or as good as you right now. Or they might. Oftentimes when I really seek to put other people’s development first, they develop faster than I could have imagined.
One of the easiest ways to do this is to let them be the fix to some problems in your ministry. Let them answer it. Don’t fix it for them.
It’s not simple and it may take months or even years, but becoming a developer rather than a hero is what your ministry needs to go to the next level.